"Come, little leaves," said the wind one day.

There has been a lot of talk of friendship and values lately. both positive and some not. I currently have a friend that is in a relationship or marriage i guess i should say. i met her several years ago when i was pregnant with my son and we became good friends. the old saying "from two different worlds" would be the perfect description for us. yet she is a caring and loving person who works a steady job, and loves her kid. last night she called me upset because her husband had left her at home again. doesnt sound bad does it? well considering that he has been on a drinking binge since last sunday would probably explain it better. he's not abusive, never hit her. but he hasnt been there for her emotionally or physically. I want to be supportive and give her some kind of great advice, but what should i say exactly? he works full time, always pays the bills, makes sure that there are groceries in the house and gas in the car. so what should i say? certainly not to leave him..... then what i wonder? this thought has been rolling around in my head for the better part of the night. when exactly should a woman leave a man in this situation? my divorce was easy, my ex was a creep. but this guy..... well i dont know how to describe him. He doesnt put her down, easy to get along with.... is it that they are just not compatible any more? is it the kids that have changed things? would counseling help? im not even sure how i would handle it if i were the one in the situation. she has the support of friends, and me. but is that enough and a valid reason to stay put and deal? i guess im going to have to think on this a little more, any input would be great! right now me and marcus'  family has invaded and there is not an empty room in my house. there was already 2 adults and 3.5 kids, now there is 12 adults and 9.5 kids. and we are still expecting 3 more adults and 4 kids. thank goodness that i am actually going to be someone elses visitor this christmas!
 have a great day everyone, and dont get lost in the hustle and bustle of the holiday!